Why I haven’t been blogging lately

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Blogging has taken a back seat this year which is sad and a little bit frustrating.  But I had to re-prioritize my life and take care of what’s important first.

Work took a big priority at the beginning of the year when I was overloaded and also off to many interviews in between.  I put on weight and then my focus turned to losing it and staying healthy.  In between working harder than I have before (which is essentially a good thing career-wise) and keeping fit (which is also good for me health-wise), the creativity hobbies had to take a back seat.  And I’m ok with that.

I still managed to create a new blog (this one!) and write a few blog posts for My Pretty Sydney.  I read plenty of other blogs and would feel inspiration some days because I wanted to create just as badly as them.  But on other days, I just enjoyed other people’s blogs for what they are.

I’m not sure how next year will go – I’m likely to get more busy with work and life and I’ll have to put blogging on the back burner.  But it’s nice to know it’s there.  It’s nice to connect with other bloggers and Instagrammers and have some kind of balance.  It’s a creative outlet for me at this stage.  Maybe one day I’ll figure out how to make it into a bigger project, but for now – it’s here.  It’s all mine.  It’s my thoughts and my way of keeping the creative side of my brain going.

Thank you for reading this post.

Happy weekends… 

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This weekend was very busy – especially after being away last weekend with my parents in Brisbane. 
But – both weekends were filled with all the good things in life. Family, old friends, laughter, good chats, delicious food and exercise. 
Usually I try to wake up without an alarm at least on Sunday so that I can get a proper night’s sleep. But I wasn’t able to both these weekends and as a result, in really tired! 
But I am incredibly grateful for all the good things that happened! I’m tired because of precious time spent with precious people. What more could you want in life? 

How to get Through Detours in Life

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I was feeling a little down and in need of some positive energy and advice so I turned to one of my favourite vloggers (not sure if she is one?) – Marie Forleo.  I watched this clip on ‘Feeling Behind in Life’ which is EXACTLY how I was feeling yesterday.

You see, I took a detour and while I try to enjoy the journey – I have been finding it difficult lately.  Especially because I’m now stuck in my detour and kind of bored of it and want to move onto the next destination.  It’s like I’ve been driving on this road and taken a few turns here and there but generally, I have always gotten to where I wanted to go.  And then five years ago, I took a detour and stopped at a beach town and have been enjoying my life there – but now I’m bored of it and want to find something else.  Maybe another beach town or a busier city… but just something new and challenging.

But then I watched this video and Marie reminded me to:

– ‘Adore my detours’

– to remind myself that ‘Where you are is exactly where you need to be.  Trust the timing of your life.’

– And my favourite – ‘Comparison is the burglar of happiness’ because I was a little guilty of that too. 

So thanks Marie Forleo for another uplifting video to make me feel more positive about my situation.  It’s honestly not that bad and maybe it’s where I’m meant to be?

So here are some ways I’m going to make myself feel better about my detour:

          Enjoy the moment.  Because there is a high chance that once I am in a new role, I will really miss everything about my current role.

          Stop checking LinkedIn for former colleagues and their new job titles.

          Be happy with the detour I have taken and all the life lessons I have learned along the way.

          Find some new hobbies outside of work to keep life interesting. 

Have you ever felt like you were behind in life? How did you manage? 

Lazy Weekend Breakfasts at Home

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Is there anything better than a lazy breakfast on the weekend? My boyfriend and I usually go out on the weekends to a local café and indulge in eggs, avocado, toast and tea – all made and served by someone else.  It’s lovely and delicious but you do have to get dressed, get in the car, find a parking spot in the busy Sydney streets and walk to your breakfast which isn’t as relaxing as lazing around in your PJs at home.

So occasionally, I enjoy eating my weekend breakfast at home (usually when my boyfriend goes to play golf early in the a.m.).  I enjoy waking up lazily at my own time instead of being shocked awake by a loud alarm.  I love the feeling of lying in bed knowing that I don’t have to be anywhere at all.  I drink a tall glass of water, meditate for 20 minutes and then pad out into the kitchen in my pajamas and hair in a messy top knot.  I pop the kettle on and make myself some tea.  I usually scramble some eggs in olive oil butter and drizzle some Tabasco sauce and pop it on top of rye toast.  I drink my tea and eat my delicious breakfast while reading a magazine, book or blog posts.  After I finish my breakfast, I often make a second cup of tea and enjoy quietly reading in the morning sun in my pajamas.  It’s the best way to start the weekend – lazy, quiet and relaxing.

This picture that I found on Pinterest years ago sums up my perfect weekend breakfast.  If you know who drew this, please let me know so I can credit them and write them a note to tell them how much I love it!

Do you love lazy breakfasts at home on the weekend too?

Image via Pinterest.

 

5 Ways to get Through a Stressful Time

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This year has been busier than any other year for me at my current employer.  I have been pushed and stretched to my limits with months where I was too busy to even breathe.  It wasn’t very nice but I learned a lot and feel that I have grown in many ways.  I also learned to just ‘get on with it’ and found moments to be happy on some of those days.

I wanted to share some of the ways with you below.  I know that a lot of us are in the same boat whether we live in the city or elsewhere.  We have days where we have so many things on our ‘To Do’ list that we have to remember to find time to just breathe.  We work at our desks under fluorescent lights (and in my case, no windows) and eat lunch at our desks (or in my case, the windowless kitchen) and work until late in the evening without catching any sunlight whatsoever. Or you may be a busy mum who has to get the kids ready for school while tending to your baby, drop the kids off, run errands and do housework, pick the kids up and take care of them until they go to bed at which time your husband comes home and you are too tired to do or say anything. Or you could be working 9 to 5 but have a side hustle like a blog or another business that you are trying to get off the ground.  It doesn’t matter what paths we have taken – we all seem to be ‘BUSY’.

Here are my 5 ways to get through those tough times:

 1. Meditation.  I meditate every morning for 20 minutes and it’s not a great meditation at all because I find my mind wandering all the time, usually to work-related matters.  But I push it back to focussing on my breath each time it wanders away.  What I didn’t realise was that training my mind to focus from other thoughts would actually help me in my day-to-day life.  Now, I can catch myself thinking about something negative, push it out, focus on my breath and turn my attention back to the task at hand or to a positive thought.

2. Mindfulness.  This flows on from meditation which helps me to be mindful during each task.  In my job, I love that no two days are the same. But when it’s super busy, the work flow can be hard to manage.  While I’m working on one thing, another 3 tasks can come from different directions and I have to re-prioritize my day.  It’s not easy.

But what makes it a little easier is to be mindful during each task and not think about the other tasks waiting for my attention at the end.  I focus on one thing for about an hour and switch gears and focus on something else, then switch to another thing and somehow it all gets done.  Being mindful at work can really help my productivity.

3. Exercise.  I know, I know, this list is starting to look like a LOT of other lists you will read in fitness mags, wellness sites etc.  But this is a tried and tested list so I hope it inspires you to follow!

So I wasn’t exercising much (as you know from my last post) for about 2 months until the busy month started. I was feeling weak, unfit, lethargic and bloated.  Plus I didn’t fit into one of my fave shits!

So I started exercising with the Nike Fitness app and started to feel great after each 30min HIIT (high intensity interval training) session.  The endorphins would kick in and I felt happy and energetic as my body started burning the fat and converting it into energy.  I also signed up to pole and started my first pole class in May since January this year which was tough! But I came home feeling awesome even though I was disappointed at how much strength and flexibility I had lost.  I’m excited to get back into it and restart my pole journey.

4. Reading.  I love reading and I didn’t get much time to read during the weekdays when my mind was tired and my eyes were sore from working hard and staring at a computer all day long.

But on weekends I read Jenny Colgan’s ‘Summer Seaside Kitchen’ for escapism and ‘When Breath Becomes Air‘ by Paul Kalinithi for perspective and wisdom and ‘The Great Disciples of the Buddha‘ for more perspective and wisdom (but I would only recommend this last book if you’re interested in Buddhism only, it’s not a book for everyone!).

I also read a lot of blogs on weeknights when I could because they fed my short attention span.  I browsed through  ‘Hannah Gale‘, ‘Daisybutter’, ‘Nish’s Kitchen‘, ‘Just a Girl from Mumbai’,Chevrons and Eclairs’ and ‘The Western Sydney Girl’ for a nice read with lovely photos and interesting thoughts.

5. TV and movies.  On those days where I couldn’t physically read anything, I watched a bit of TV or a nice feel-good movie to wind down.  Over the month, I watched ‘Amelie’, ‘The African Doctor’ and ‘Under the Tuscan Sun’.  I didn’t watch these shows last month, but I often turn to old series like ‘Gilmore Girls’ and ‘Full House’ for comfort (don’t judge!) during tough times too.

I hope your year is going well so far and remember, when times get stressful, there is always light at the end of the tunnel!

 

Life Lately #4

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I’m lying on my couch with my laptop propped up and a cup of ‘Relax’ Pukka tea feeling energized with all the endorphins from a great gym session.  I jog/walked for 25 minutes and did a circuit for about 15 minutes and walked out feeling great.  I also just meal prepped for the week and am feeling organized! But I think it’s really the endorphins that is helping me to feel good.

Reflecting on a great week gone by…

Do: 

  • I had my pole performance last week which was fun and went well! It’s always a good laugh and fun to dance with the other girls.
  • I also jog/walked 5.6km for a run organized by work as a tribute to a great colleague who sadly passed away last month.  I felt great afterwards and want to get into running in the fresh open air!
  • I finished my last presentation for the year and treated myself to a manicure.  Work ramped up the next day though – but it’s ok, you have to celebrate the small wins right?

Eat:

  • My boyfriend and I treated ourselves to some delicious Japanese food on Thursday night.
  • We also had a delicious brunch today at one of my favourite haunts.  Eggs inside toast (you know where they cut a hole in the bread and pour the egg in and cook it together?) with mushrooms, cherry tomatoes and chutney.  It was delicious!
  • One of my lovely girlfriends and I caught up for lunch at a trendy little café that served surprisingly delicious food.  I had lots of salads.
  • My work team and I also caught up for lunch this week at a local bar.  I had a Thai stir fry with jasmine rice which was tasty but did make me feel a little sick afterwards….

Looking back, it was a good food week for me!

Overall I’m trying to eat less meat because I find it hard to practice loving kindness meditation otherwise.  But then again, I have to practice loving kindness towards myself and therefore sometimes have to eat meat to get my iron intake.  So I usually eat vego for breakfast and lunch and eat meat for dinner with my boyfriend.

Drink: My ‘Relax’ Pukka tea is pretty delicious although a tad expensive!

Watch: I have just started watching ‘Victoria’ on Netflix which is pretty good, I must say. I loved the move ‘The Young Victoria’, so I’m hoping it will be just as good with more details spread out over the 8 episodes that are an a hour long! My boyfriend and I also watched Allied which was released last year.  It was pretty good, even though it doesn’t have a happy ending.  It wasn’t my usual style of movie but it had me hooked from beginning to end and talking about it today as well.

Read: I finished Congo Dawn’ by Katherine Scholes last Sunday.  It was good although I felt it dragged out a little bit. But perhaps I just didn’t enjoy the military/war parts.  It was a beautiful story though and I highly recommend it, especially if you like Africa like me! I haven’t started reading much else since.  I downloaded 4 Hour Work Week’ by Tim Ferris onto my Kindle yesterday and enjoyed the first few pages, but not sure how it will go.  I also read my Women’s Fitness magazine which was delivered to my post box on Tuesday night after my major presentation which was a lovely little surprise.

How was your week? Hope you have been well!

Happy Sunday and have a great week ahead!

PS I took this photo years ago when I went to a PR agency to see the DeLonghi machine! I don’t drink coffee but I like the photo…

Random Acts of Kindness

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It was an unusually cold and rainy Saturday in Sydney today.  I was already feeling cold and miserable as I walked towards lunch – even though it was to meet with a lovely friend – and I thought I had to stay positive because I was in one of Sydney’s snobbiest neighbourhoods.

But I was surprised today with a few random acts of kindness that were thrown my way.

  • On my way to lunch, I got stuck on a main road with two lanes that went in completely different directions.  I happened to be in the wrong lane which was going the complete opposite direction to the way I wanted to go.  So I stopped my car and indicated to switch lanes and prayed that the person next to me would let me through without much fuss or drama from any of the other cars around me.  And they did.  Miraculously.  I was so grateful.

 

  • The waitress at the hip and trendy cafes was friendly and attentive.  She suggested dishes and came back to see us many times during our meal.

 

  • I did some grocery shopping afterwards at the local supermarket where the aisles were very narrow.  As people walked past me, I tried to make myself small and move out of the way.  Usually the other person doesn’t notice and keeps walking.  But today, people noticed and either moved out of the way for me or smiled and nodded thank you.

 

  • I wandered into a chicken and chip shop to pick up lunch for my boyfriend.  There was a long queue of people and I noticed a ticket system but couldn’t see where to get the tickets.  I must have been looking lost so two gentleman in suits stopped their conversation and looked at me.  I asked them how it works, and they told me where to get the ticket from.

 

  • The tickets were available from a dispenser behind a girl.  She heard that I needed one and immediately turned around, pulled out a ticket and handed it to me.  I was so shocked, I could barely mumble thank you and smile before walking to the back of the queue!

 

  • As I was walking back to my car with 3 heavy bags of groceries and takeaway, I stopped at a zebra crossing and looked to see if anyone would let me walk across the road.  To my surprise, a lady in a land rover stopped for me and smiled back when I nodded to say thank you as I walked across the road in the drizzling rain.

I don’t know whether it was my friendly and positive vibes that brought friendly vibes my way or whether I had completely misjudged this snobby part of town.  All I know is I am grateful for all the kindness that came my way today. I really am.  Today is one of those days that my faith in other humans was restored.

 

Taking the Pressure Off

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I have always put additional pressure on myself, even as a little kid.  When I was five years old, I wanted to get top marks in my school tests (which I think pretty normal for a South Asian kid anywhere in the world!…).  In high school, I wanted to get straight As.  In university, I wanted to get high distinctions and land a great job.  At my ‘great’ job, I wanted to be the superstar.  With worry, stress and pressure, I managed to do it. But. It was exhausting – I got burned out after my time in Hong Kong and came home.  I was at peace for a while.  I was content and found a job where I didn’t have to put too much pressure on myself.  I took a little breather.

But the need to achieve is ingrained in me and it didn’t take long to kick back up again.  I started wanting to over achieve like I had been doing all my life.  I wanted to be the best in my job, the best at my pole dancing class, the best girlfriend, the best daughter and the best friend anyone could ask for.  I wanted to please everyone else – and maybe myself too.  I didn’t want to disappoint anyone including me.

But looking back, I realised that it’s only when I take the additional pressure off myself that I do really well.  Often during many times in my life, I set myself a goal and get so worked up at wanting to achieve it and work hard but also stress and worry really hard too.  They say a little stress and worry are necessary to add fuel and fire to achieving your goal, but too much stress and worry can be counterproductive.  I can’t sleep well and my immune system weakens so I get sick and have to fight even harder.

This year has been especially gruelling with lots of worry and stress.  My work load and hours literally doubled at the start of the year.  Things have quietened down a little bit since, but I am still incredibly busy with lots of work, outside of work commitments and family obligations as well – mine and my boyfriend’s.  Not to mention that Christmas/NY is just around the corner with its own pressures.

I had a big presentation in front of a lot of people and I stressed and worried about it for TWO days beforehand.  As a result, I was nervous and spoke too fast and read from my notes far too much for my liking.  All the Toastmasters training had flown out the door.

So afterwards, I analysed why I hadn’t performed as well as I wanted to.  And I realised, it’s because I have this BIG goal of moving very far up on the corporate ladder in 20 years time, and wanted to show all my current managers that I had the skills to do so.  I wanted them to be impressed with my public speaking skills now for a goal later.  A goal that may actually never be realised, because who knows what could happen in 20 years? Plus, the likelihood of me working for any of my current bosses in 20 years time is slim to none.  It seemed so silly to have such a big goal and aspiration in my head and put all this pressure on one little presentation.

So, I decided that I was going to take the additional pressure off myself.  The pressure to over achieve.  The pressure to succeed.  The pressure to be the best.  It’s exhausting and I don’t have the energy for it at the moment.

I decided instead, to take each day at a time.

A few days later, I had another big presentation.  I forced myself to not think about it.  I practiced what I was going to say, but I told myself that I would live in the moment and go into the presentation with the simple goal of informing the audience to give them the information they needed to make a decision.

Guess what happened?!  I was relaxed, calm and focused.  It was easy and actually – fun!

So here is my plan for the next 2 months –  I’m going to take the additional pressure off and enjoy the remainder of the year.

I’m going to do my very best at work. 

I will…. stay focussed, take pride in my work and tackle each task to the best of my ability.  I will learn new skills and ideas and concepts as I work.

But I won’t… compare myself to my peers or beat myself up for small mistakes I make when I am over loaded.

Instead, I’ll reward myself for being focussed and continuing to learn and grow in my job.

I’m going to do my best at my dancing classes. 

I will.. learn new tricks and choreography and enjoy putting them all together, and laughing along with the other girls in the class.

But I won’t… compare myself to them or beat myself up for missing a bit of the choreography or not pointing my toes during a tricky move.

Instead, I’ll pat myself on the back for having a go and keeping fit!

I’m going to eat healthily and exercise when I can. 

I will… eat 5 small meals a day – 3 slightly bigger meals and 2 healthy snacks.  But on a Friday night, I might have a nice Thai takeaway.  If my boyfriend and I go out to dinner, I may enjoy a delicious carb-heavy pasta.  I’ll try to go for a walk at lunchtime but only if I have time.

But I won’t… feel guilty or beat myself up for eating more calories than I should.  I won’t beat myself up for not being able to go out for a walk and wanting to read my book in the sun instead.

Instead I will be perfectly content and grateful for the body I have been given and the abundance of fresh food and exercise classes afforded to me.

I’m going to speak to my friends when I have time. 

I will… message my friends back when I can.

I won’t…. beat myself up and call myself a bad friend if I can’t message them straight away.

Instead, I will be grateful for having friends who live busy lives like me and know that even though I’m far away, I will always be there for them – and they will always be there for me.

I’m going to blog when I can.  

I will… write, pour my heart out and take photos only when I feel the creative energy buzzing in me.

I won’t… create posts just because I haven’t posted in a while.  I won’t be disappointed in myself if I can’t attend a cool blogger event or if I haven’t posted in a while.

Instead I will be grateful for having two little pieces of the internet to pour my heart and soul into, and to share my thoughts, ideas and recommendations with the world.

I’m going to stop putting all that pressure on myself to do well at all avenues of life.  I have to – otherwise I’m going to burn out all over again.  And frankly, I have lived far too much of this year in a pressure pot.  So I’m stepping out – for 2 months at least!

Are you going to take the pressure off yourself too?

 

What I Learned from Living Overseas

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I packed up my life and moved to Hong Kong for 2 years on the 4th April 2010 (over 7 years ago!!!).  If you ask me what my life was like there, I usually scrunch up my nose and say something like ‘it was crazy’ or ‘I didn’t like it’ or ‘I couldn’t wait to jump on that plane to come home’… You’re not likely to get a positive or enthusiastic response. To be honest, I really didn’t like it there. It simply wasn’t the city or culture for me.
But am I glad I did it? Absolutely. I made some amazing new friends who I still keep in touch with; used the city as a base for travelling around Asia; and learned more about myself than I ever would have had I stayed in Sydney. I also became more confident and feel like I can do anything now that I’ve tackled a foreign country on my own.

 

Those first six months…
Were pretty miserable. No friends, a challenging new role and a foreign country. I was working for a firm with a reputation for working hard in a country with a reputation for working hard. I’m not exactly sure how I got through it, but I did. It helped when my parents visited and made my apartment feel a bit more homely. I kept in touch with my friends from home and Skype dates with my lovely friend KP kept me grounded and sane.

Towards the end of the first six months, I got into a routine, started to feel a bit more comfortable at work and began to make some new friends. There was a friend of a friend from Australia who introduced me to her friends, as well as new colleagues at work too.
I gradually began to adjust to my new life. It took a while, for me, but eventually, it became my new ‘normal’.

When I realized I wanted to move back home…
A trip home during Christmas just 8 months after my move made me realize how lucky I was to have an Australian passport. We are blessed with natural beauty, fresh fruit and vegetables and a hard working but nice culture. You can take the girl out of Australia but you can’t take Australia out of the girl!

I knew I wanted to move back a year before my contract ended so my second year like a long working holiday. I made some lovely friends outside of work (starting with a belly dancing class where I met the wonderful Miss H who introduced me to her lovely circle of friends including Miss MB). I also had a great group of friends at work who were all around the same age and in the same boat. It helped to have them around when we were working together so much.

I was also lucky enough to visit many Asian countries like Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam and Singapore. Countries that are a short distance from HK but a long distance from Australia.

 

What I learned from living overseas…

  • To be comfortable in my own company.  Living and travelling alone have taught me to be independent and confident on my own.
  • To push myself out of my comfort zone even when I moved back home.  Meeting new people, making new best friends, travelling to new places, trying different food and tackling various projects at work makes me feel alive, energised and positive.  If I find myself slipping into a routine, I feel bored and despondent so I push myself to try something new again, just like I had to when I lived overseas.
  • We may look, act and think differently but at the end of the day, we’re all humans and want the same basic things…. food, water, shelter and love.  It’s pretty simple.  Once I figured this out, I found it easier to connect with anyone in the world, regardless of a language or cultural barrier.
  • Stability is a wonderful thing.  Having a base with supportive and loving people are pretty important – for me, at least.  Moving overseas and turning my life upside down showed me that I’m not made for a nomadic life.
  • I would rather work where I live rather than live where I work.  I moved to HK for a job and unfortunately, it didn’t work out because my loneliness and unhappiness  in my personal life seeped into my work life.  I moved back to Sydney for the lifestyle and as a result, I’m really enjoying my job  as well.

I’m not sure if I would have learned all these things had I not lived overseas…. or perhaps I wouldn’t have learned them so quickly.  Which is why  I highly recommend living overseas to anyone who is lucky enough to be given the opportunity.  It may be wonderful… or not so wonderful (like it was for me) but you will only come out of it stronger than before.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.

How to be a Positive Person

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People describe me as being a positive person so I thought I would share some tips I use to stay positive.  Of course, sometimes I also find it difficult to stay positive and upbeat about things – sometimes you just have to feel down and let yourself have a good cry.  But on most days, I think that I push myself to be positive.  It’s a habit that was passed to me be my parents and also reiterated in my Buddhist practice.  Here are some ways I stay positive:

  • I know that everything is impermanent.  Nothing stays the same forever – the seasons, our bodies, friendships, jobs or lifestyles.  I remember being miserable in Hong Kong because I didn’t like the lifestyle or the work ethic there.  But within two years, I moved back home.  It all changed.  So during difficult times I try to be positive because I know that things will eventually change and harmony will be restored – and when things are great, I appreciate and cherish the good times because I know that it won’t last forever as well.

As Thich Nhat Hanh says ‘Impermanence is just as capable of bringing about happiness as it is of bringing about suffering.  Impermanence is not bad news.  Because of impermanence, despotic regimes fall.  Because of impermanence, illness can be cured.  Thanks to impermanence, we can enjoy the wonder of the four beautiful seasons.  Thanks to impermanence, anything can change and transform into a more positive action’.  

  • Knowing that sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.  I applied for a very intense role when I was just 19 years old and missed out after the first interview.  I was devastated – it was the job of my dreams – or so I thought.  Two years later, I started working for an even better bank in a role that was more suited to me.  The role I missed out on wasn’t for me, and it wasn’t the right time either – missing out was a blessing in disguise.

 

  • Understand you’re not the only person in the world with that problem. When I was younger I thought I was alone in how I felt.  With boyfriends or school grades or friendship conflicts, I thought I was the only person in the world experiencing that pain.  But as I grew older – and as the internet became a more prominent part of our lives – a quick google of any problem will result in forums and ways to help you to feel better.  Knowing that I’m not the only person out there that’s suffering somehow makes me feel better.  We aren’t as alone as we think.

 

  • Read stories about people who turned their situations around.  Going to the earlier point, a google search often results in stories about people who had been in a similar situation and how they turned their story around to be better.  This could be a bad breakup where they eventually met their soul mate later, or a business failure that resulted in them finding a new career path that suited them more.  I love reading stories like this – especially when I’m down – because it reminds me that the sun will shine down some day – even if it’s not today!

 

  • Quotes. I love reading quotes from  the Buddha, Dalai Lama or Thich Nhat Hanh in particular.  Also quotes from wise folk like Marie Forleo or Marianne Williamson to make me feel better.  They calm me down and help me to see that things will turn around.

 

  • Be mindful.  Often my negative thoughts will whir in my head and I won’t be able to focus on the task at hand.  That’s why I find that being mindful – that is telling my mind to come back to focussing on something as simple as breathing, walking or sitting on the couch and feeling the sensation of my feet on the ground – helps me to forget about the negative thoughts. I may not feel positive immediately but I’ll at least feel grounded which will push away those negative thoughts.

 

  • Be healthy.  I know this appears on many lists but I have to say, that being healthy makes me more positive than usual.  Sleeping well, eating the right foods and exercising frequently makes you feel good which generally pushes away the anxiety and negative thoughts.  Keep yourself fit and healthy and you’ll feel even more positive than usual!

 

I hope you enjoyed these tips and will use them if you are feeling down one day.  What do you do to stay positive?